When people ask how Nick and I are doing in quarantine, I like to joke, “It’s all quantity time now!”
I mean, there’s no denying it has been a lot of one-on-one together time since March 6, 2020 when our offices closed, sending us to work from home. At the same time restaurants, the gym, and our friends’ houses closed to us, too. And even grocery shopping became a terrifying experience. You know. You were there!
But there was plenty of good to come of it, too.
We got really good at expressing wheat we needed. I need a hug. I need you to stay upstairs while I record this video. I need you to have patience with me while I deal with this hard thing. Sometimes saying what we need can be hard. I think we also got better at reading what was unsaid.
There have definitely been some impatient moments, but also plenty of opportunities to express genuine gratitude. I’m glad we’re in this together. One morning, I came downstairs and Nick had already started the coffee. “Thank you, you beautiful man you,” I gushed. Now one of us says this line every morning. We’re also grateful for our friends, family, the essential workers working at the grocery store, picking up the recycling, and delivering our weekly take-out. We were most grateful when the house-cleaning team could return.
I constantly remind Nick that “we’re a team.” And I mean that x100 during the pandemic. On days when it’s hard on me, I get to lean on him and vice versa. One thing I said early on was that I struggle to do the meal planning, shopping, and cooking in normal times and need help now that we’re having every meal at home. He stepped up, helping make the grocery list and making sure to eat the leftovers from the fridge.
We’ve also taken plenty of opportunities to acknowledge how much worse we could have it. We both have jobs we can safely do from home. They keep us occupied and allow us to pay it forward. We’ve made it a point to contribute anything extra to The Seattle Foundation or Food Lifeline. We also continue to pay those who worked for us even if we can’t use their services right now.
I hope you and your bubble are doing well right now and taking good care of one another.