1. Do you ever go back and read your posts?
A: All the time. I don’t deny that I’m my biggest fan and responsible for most of my page views. Here are my four favorites.
A former roommate/song writer used to talk about “emotional vomit,” fueling his songs. These two are raw emotion. I was literally crying on my keyboard as I wrote them.
I wrote this one after finding out my sis-in-law is expecting Baby No. 2. I can’t wait for a new little.
I don’t read this one often, but I think about it often, like every time I have my serious face on in yoga class.
2. How much do you edit your writing?
A: I try to do minimal edits. I don’t ever want to go back and edit out the emotion. I write, read through and fix typos and sentence structure. Then I publish. I read it again when it’s live to fix typos. I feel like I catch them better when I’m reading on the actual page.
3. Is there anything you won’t blog about?
A: Absolutely! Some parts of my life are for me. They aren’t for sharing. This is especially true when someone else is involved. My friends and family, of course, get mentioned on my blog, but I never want to tell their stories. I’m not in their heads. That’s not fair to anyone. This is my blog. I’m the star, they are supporting characters. But in real life, we’re all the stars.
4. Will you show us pictures of your ass?
A: Um, all right “Candace Nelson’s ass” is a top search term on my page. Here you go. Just don’t ask to see my belly.
5. Do you ever go back and delete posts?
A: I’ve deleted one or two. They were both too whiney. I don’t want this blog to be a place for my complaining. That’s definitely not my goal. My goal isn’t to fool readers into believing my life is perfect either. I don’t go back and delete ex-boyfriends or posts about bad days. What I truly love is being honest. The best compliment is when someone emails to tell me they completely relate to something I wrote. That’s the goal of my blog. To be a place where people can say, “hey, I’m not alone in this.” I also want to give my readers hope. Hope that things can and do get better. You are never stuck where you are. And if anyone gets to a therapist or life coach’s couch based on something they read, here, then mission accomplished. I believe that self-awareness is the key to feeling content and fulfilled with your life. It just takes a trained professional to spot it sometimes. Ain’t nothing wrong with that.
6. Why don’t you write more often?
A: You know, I just don’t always have something to say. I like to write when I have something worth sharing. Quality, not quantity.
7. Are you staying in New York City forever?
A: No concrete plans to leave, but no, staying is not my plan. To be continued …