I love the “things you didn’t know about me” posts going around Facebook. Not because I’m narcissistic and love an excuse to talk about myself (though that’s not untrue), but because I think it’s helpful to learn more about the people I love.
Granted the lists on Facebook are more hilarious than deep, but I still learned who used to play soccer, who dreams of moving to New York and what my friends’ pet peeves are.
The “what you should know about me” lists are a tool relationship therapists use. That’s why I love these lists. It’s such a safe way to voice your needs. Some examples:
“One thing you should know about me is I need some space to clear my head when I get home from work each day.”
“One thing you should know about me is that I don’t like to stay at the homes of people I don’t know.”
“One thing you should know about me is that I feel unsafe going in convenience stores.”
I think this could be amazingly helpful in workplaces, too.
“One thing you should know about me is that I respond better if you speak to me privately than in front of the group.”
“One thing you should know about me is that I like to know why you changed something in my work, so I can learn what I did wrong.”
See? Yes, it can be hokey, but it really can be helpful, too. It’s a completely non-threatening way to speak up – especially when you just say these things when they pop in your head in stead of out of anger.
But the surface stuff is fun, too, and it’s also fun to learn what my friends’ dreams are. Or what they thought their lives would be like at 30.