Toward the end of Derek’s and my relationship, I had so much anxiety. I felt like too much was out of my control and it was unsettling. I didn’t know where my life was going, and I didn’t know how to navigate that.
At the end of each day, I took time to check in with myself. It sounds hokey, but I’d ask myself if I did everything I could that day. Not just for my relationship, but for all aspects of my life. I felt like it was a good way to stay positive and keep the focus on what I wanted to accomplish, not what I was losing.
I was reminded of that today when my boot camp posted an image on Facebook. The words on the image say “Today, what did I do for my mind? My body? My spirit? My relationship? My creativity? And passion?”
It’s so similar to my own exercise. I’d ask myself, “Today, did I do everything I could for …”
My career? Did I go to class? Did I tighten my resume? Did I accomplish something at work? Did I make a connection? Did I apply for something? Did I pitch a story?
My relationships? Did I call my parents? Did I listen to a pal who needed an ear? Did I challenge anyone? Did I call or meet up with a friend? Did I write a letter?
My body? Did I go to yoga or for a run or to boot camp? Did I consume some superfoods? Did I take the stairs instead of the escalator?
My mind? Did I take the time to acknowledge and sort out my feelings? Did I nurture me? Did I clean up my apartment to make my space comfortable? Did I give thanks for what I do have and not focus on what I don’t?
Now, I know I can’t do everything every day. That’s not realistic, but that simple check in reminds me of my priorities. Maybe I need to reinstitute that.