It’s so nice to have a partner in life, isn’t it? I’ve been reminded of that this week. I’ve spent this past year focusing on holding myself up, and I can do that. But, it’s also nice to have someone to lean on from time to time.
Chad and my friends have been awesome through my move. Chad brought me boxes from his store. He helped me move furniture out of my friend’s apartment and into his car, where it’s been sitting since Sunday. I was so grateful as we pulled away from Jen’s street and thanked him. His response: “I’d do anything for you.”
I hired movers to do the bulk of the heavy lifting, but when Navani asked if she could help with anything, I gratefully accepted. It would be so much nicer to have a buddy to unpack my boxes, hang my clothes, make the bed and run to Bed, Bath and Beyond run with. I could do these things on my own, but I had a willing partner and could use the help getting settled.
Coincidentally, a newly widowed friend was telling me how difficult it is to do the basics, like load the dishwasher and run the vacuum. Those things are hard when you have a partner, but lose that partner and all the pressure to parent, clean, prepare meals and earn an income is on one. I asked her if I could come by while she’s out one evening and clean for her. I could scrub the bathroom, run the dishwasher and have dinner ready when she and her kids get home. She accepted, saying it’s been so hard to spend time with her kids when those things need to be done. I told her it would make me happy to be able to do something for her family.
After all, we all need a partner to lean on from time to time. Life is lonely when we feel like we only have ourselves.