Thank you for tuning in to this weeks’ episode of Candace Shares Her Feelings.
This afternoon, I returned from Christmas at the family home to my quiet, chilly, half-packed apartment. As I dropped my suitcase and turned up the heat, I couldn’t help but feel a little blue. Two more weeks, I thought, noticing how empty the place looks already.
Then my eyes were drawn to the cozy gray knit slippers I left in the middle of the floor. I felt immediately comforted. I remembered a little over a year ago when I bought them. My therapist advised me to find some cozy go-to items that would make me feel good. She said after her own split, she put together a box of DVDs, slippers, a cozy blanket, some nail polishes, etc. I didn’t put together a box of my own, but I did pick out those slippers, and I have my favorite movies and songs on my iPhone. I don’t watch them often, but it’s nice to know I have them if I find myself stuck on a plane or awake at 3 a.m.
I remember being in London a year and a half ago. I was jet-lagged and wide awake in the middle of the night. I didn’t want to go anywhere, so I clicked on the hotel TV. I was hoping for an episode of “Friends” or “How I Met Your Mother,” but I found “American Pie,” and settled for that. Sure, I could’ve watched British TV, but I wanted something familiar. I’d had a great day exploring the foreign land, and taking things in, but at that moment, I didn’t want new.
I noticed my nephew doing the same thing at Christmas. He was tired, and surrounded by extended family. He’d been playing with new toys all day. He wanted comfortable. Adam found me, crawled into my lap and asked, “Cars phone?” Knowing he was sleepy, I pulled up YouTube on my phone and searched for the “Cars” movie. He cuddled close and watched the familiar clips, oblivious to the people around him. He did well until he started clicking on clips he didn’t want to watch. Then he moved to Mommy’s lap and fell asleep.
I’m making a mental note to pack my phone charger and slippers in my carry-on to New York. What are your favorite go-to comforts?