Sometimes you find what you’re looking for … when you ask.
About a year ago, I started telling my friend/co-worker about the upheaval in my life. About the same time, she found herself amidst her own crises. I confessed things to her I didn’t want to confess to myself (and I think she did, too). We gave each other pep talks when we needed it. We often commented that our mornings didn’t feel complete if we couldn’t check in with one another.
“Into each life some rain must fall,” Longfellow once wrote. I’m grateful when it was storming in my life, I had a friend to share an umbrella with. Not that I wish her to get caught in the rain, of course, but if it’s going to pour, we might as well put on our galoshes and jackets and face it together, right? We often reminded each other that we’d slosh through this storm and be better for it.
Now the clouds are breaking for both of us. The sun is peeking through.
“Funny, after our full year of sharing so much, we both have new lives ahead of us,” she wrote to me today.
That statement made me tear up a bit. It’s really happening. We’re really pushing forward. And we’re really both better off because of it.
It would’ve been so easy to carry on our work lives without ever discovering our personal challenges, but I’m so glad we didn’t. Sometimes you don’t find what you’re looking for, but you do find what you need.